Should I wait for God to bring me a boyfriend/girlfriend?

"Don't copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God's will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect." —Romans 12:2 (NLT)

The world is really insistent that our worth is dependent upon whether we're in a romantic relationship. That the ONLY way to prove we're lovable is if we have someone to date.

These thoughts can be so paralyzing and sometimes lead to an obsession with attracting a boyfriend or girlfriend. As if all our days are just one big, long waiting game for that perfect person to arrive.

That kind of attitude dismisses the fact that we're still growing and maturing as individual human beings—creating our own life experiences, developing our own worldviews, and learning who we are as people.

What You Have to Offer

"For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them." —Ephesians 2:10

There's so much more to you than your relationship status. Your inherent value is based on so much more than if you're single, dating, or married. Just because you aren't in a relationship, that doesn't mean you're stuck in a holding pattern.

You have so much to offer the world right now. Don't stand around waiting for something to happen. God has good plans for you NOW (Ephesians 2:10). There is joy waiting for you NOW (John 15:11). Regardless of whether you have a GF/BF.

God's Plan for You

Whether or not you ever have a romantic relationship right now or if you ever get married or if you stay single forever, God will make all the events of your life work out for His good purposes. If having a significant other is a part of that plan, He will make it happen. If not, that's OK too! God has a way of fulfilling our needs in ways we can't even imagine.

If you feel like you've been in a holding pattern when it comes to dating and you're feeling like you can't move on, please fight against that conviction. You should not wait around for someone to join you as a life partner before you even really get started on life.

Today, your mission to get on with the things God has called you to do. If you don't know what those plans are, then it's time to find out.

"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths." —Proverbs 3:5-6

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