As I'm sure you can guess, some of the most searched terms on the internet are related to pornography—whether it is to seek it out or to find ways to end addiction. Pornography is everywhere today in varying forms and levels of graphicness. It affects both guys and girls. Satan has indeed succeeded in twisting and perverting sex. He has taken what is totally good and right (loving sex between a husband and wife) and replaced it with lust, pornography, adultery, rape, and homosexuality.
Pornography can be the first step on a very slippery slope of falling into even more immoralities (Romans 6:19). The addictive properties of pornography are documented facts. Just as drug abuse requires a user to always up the ante to achieve the same high, pornography drags one deeper and deeper into hard-core sexual addictions and ungodly desires.
The three main kinds of sin are the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life (1 John 2:16). Pornography encompasses all of those. It definitely makes us lust after flesh, and it is undeniably a lust of the eyes. Pornography is not something we are to dwell upon, according to Philippians 4:8. Pornography is addictive (1 Corinthians 6:12; 2 Peter 2:19) and destructive (Proverbs 6:25-28; Ezekiel 20:30; Ephesians 4:19). Having lustful thoughts is the essence of pornography, and it is offensive to God (Matthew 5:28). (Note: Lust is not the same as love, which is what you would feel for your husband or wife.)
When a person who claims to be a Christian has become desperately devoted to pornography, without remorse or desire to repent, that person should really consider if he or she is really saved (1 Corinthians 6:9). That sounds harsh, but one who has wholeheartedly made a decision to follow Christ will not make a decision to constantly disobey His Word. This doesn't mean we will never stumble. It happens. But if a person has no desire to change, then that is when we have to worry.
First off, do not despair! An addiction to internet porn is not an "unforgivable sin." God can and will forgive you. Pornography addiction is not impossible to conquer. With God, you will have the power to overcome it.
Second, let me encourage you that you are NOT alone. Pornography addiction is such a solitary thing. Those images you see are ones that will be burned into your memory always, and it hurts. I know it hurts. You feel like you're the only one with the problem, yet there are so many who struggle with it. Take heart that you are not the only one!
If you truly desire to be free from your addiction, here are some steps to victory:
Pornography can lead to uncontrollable lust and make it really difficult to experience true sexual intimacy when you're married. Often intense feelings of guilt and despair go along with viewing porn—or show up directly afterward. Pornography is the #1 cause of masturbation, sexual assault, and sexual deviancy. Pornography is offensive to God, which makes it a sin that must be confessed, repented of, and overcome.
But remember, you are not alone. God can give you power. YOU CAN DO THIS.
Sites like XXXchurch.com and X3Watch.com might be helpful. Also, there are great books out there like Every Young Man's Battle by Stephen Arterburn and Every Young Woman's Battle by Shannon Ethridge and Stephen Arterburn.
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Do not despair! An addiction to internet porn is not an "unforgivable sin." God can and will forgive you (Ephesians 1:7; Ephesians 2:1-22). With God, pornography addiction is not impossible to conquer (Mark 10:27). It will be a difficult road, but you CAN do this. Resolve to fight your addiction, find an accountability partner, and PRAY PRAY PRAY. God will help you escape in moments of temptation (1 Corinthians 10:13; Galatians 5:16); look for those escape routes, then take them!
Cat is the webmaster and editor of 412teens.org and regularly teaches local young writers at her workshops. She also contributes at GotQuestions.org, Blogos.org, and GQkidz.org. When Catiana is not writing or hanging out with teens, she loves spending time with her two kids, three socially awkward cats, and one curly-tailed dog.